It’s easy for dating to quickly feel like a joke. The dating world can easily go from feeling like a hopeful endless ocean of possibilities to feeling like a small pond (or kiddie pool) with only a few guppies, in only a matter of moments.
One second I feel great about being single and the next I feel like I’m Katniss from the Hunger Games racing away from that weird, giant, sick clock. It all changes in a matter of moments depending on my mood. Maybe I’m the only one whose bipolar about this subject but I have the feeling I am not.
Yesterday I was talking to God about how I feel like it might be impossible for him to bring me the type of person that I would actually really like to be with. There’s no options in sight and the possibility seems pretty hopeless, but he kindly spoke to me and reminded me that he created Eve for Adam out of dust. If any situation should have appeared hopeless to anyone it should have been for Adam. If you’ve ever thought the dating scene was bad in your city, picture Adams situation. There wasn’t another soul on the planet. And when the timing was just right, God brought Adam a companion.
I think the area of relationships is by far the hardest area to trust God in. Every other area of your life you can control to some extent. At the end of the day you can find a job, you can create a calling, you can make situations work. They might not be Gods best or the right fit but you can make something happen. But not with relationships. You can’t make someone date you, fall in love with or marry you. I think that’s why this area scares the crap out of most of us, because it’s so far outside of our control.
I also think that’s why God designed it this way, so we would have to trust him and that he would get the ultimate glory for something that he loves so much, relationships.
With that scary thought being stated, it actually gives us a lot of hope. When God is in control, it means that there are endless possibilities and so much hope for God to come in and work his awesome, unlimited powers.
I am pretty sure that if God cares about where we work, live, eat, who are friends are, how much more does he care about who we are going to spend the rest of our lives with? The person you end up with has the power to directly impact the will that God has for your life. That being said, I know God has to care about this. I feel pretty confident that even if you feel hopeless, lost and dejected in this area, God hasn’t forgotten about you and he very personally knows what matters to you.
On the flip side, I don’t think that marriage is for everyone. The being stated, I firmly believe that God doesn’t put good desires (like marriage & family) in your heart for no random reason or just to tease you. If you have that desire, I’m pretty sure it’s there for some reason.
The other day my cousin told me the story about how him and his wife met. They both stepped onto an elevator at the same time and a few floors later he was sure that he’d just met his wife. So literally, it can happen ANYWHERE at ANYTIME for you.
I am about to end this with the most cliche dating advice that I’ve ever heard and that I ABSOLUTELY HATE hearing (probably because it’s true). “Don’t worry, it’s gonna happen when it’s supposed to.” I feel confident not only in this, but that it’s going to be even more amazing and worth the wait than you thought it would be when it does.